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Thank you Sudarshan for sharing this moment with us.
You're right: empathy and care make us human, make the difference between turning away from someone in need, pretending we didn't hear or see and being there for that someone, be it a close person or a complete stranger.
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The next time someone needs you ... Just be there. Stay.
Posted 09-04-2010Reply
The next time someone needs you ... Just be there. Stay.
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A nurse took the tired, anxious serviceman to the bedside.
"Your son is here," she said to the old man.
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Last year my grandaunt had an accident and needed hip surgery, so she was in hospital for more than 3 weeks. I often went to visit her, to take care of her, feed her, help her walk again.
One day, they brought a woman with multiple injuries in the same hospital room with my aunt. She tried to commit suicide by jumping from the 4th floor of a building.
It was a normal thing to do for any of the visitors to help the sick people in that room, to feed them, buy what they needed, call the nurses or even only listen to them.
That woman was alone and agitated so they had to sedate her and tie her hands on the bed's sides so she won't try to jump, this time from the 9th floor of the hospital.
She kept saying that her daughter was the reason she didn't want to live, because her daughter forgot she has a mother and left her all alone.
Whenever she saw me, she thought I was her daughter. First, I made her angry and even violent because she wanted to revenge for feeling so hurt and lonely.
After few days, she got used with me and she was so proud that me - her daughter - visited her every day and cared about her. She started to let me feed her, give her the medicines and the nurses were so happy because I was the only one who could do that. After a week they transferred her to neurology and I went there, to help her accept the treatment and the personnel’s help so she won't be tied to bed again. She introduced me as her daughter to everybody in that room, to her doctor and nurses, with a big proud smile on her face. I visited her every time I went to see my aunt.
One day, I had to tell her that I have to go, to get back to my work in another city. I wanted to prepare her for the news that she'll be alone again once she'll go home.
I found her smiling, telling me that she realized I was not her daughter one week before, but she loved to see me and pretend I am that daughter because I was in fact, someone's daughter. She said she needed someone to be there for her, to make her feel not so alone and gain courage to face her life.
This topic made me think about this and how important can sometimes be to hold a hand, to say a nice word, to be there for someone in need…
One day, they brought a woman with multiple injuries in the same hospital room with my aunt. She tried to commit suicide by jumping from the 4th floor of a building.
It was a normal thing to do for any of the visitors to help the sick people in that room, to feed them, buy what they needed, call the nurses or even only listen to them.
That woman was alone and agitated so they had to sedate her and tie her hands on the bed's sides so she won't try to jump, this time from the 9th floor of the hospital.
She kept saying that her daughter was the reason she didn't want to live, because her daughter forgot she has a mother and left her all alone.
Whenever she saw me, she thought I was her daughter. First, I made her angry and even violent because she wanted to revenge for feeling so hurt and lonely.
After few days, she got used with me and she was so proud that me - her daughter - visited her every day and cared about her. She started to let me feed her, give her the medicines and the nurses were so happy because I was the only one who could do that. After a week they transferred her to neurology and I went there, to help her accept the treatment and the personnel’s help so she won't be tied to bed again. She introduced me as her daughter to everybody in that room, to her doctor and nurses, with a big proud smile on her face. I visited her every time I went to see my aunt.
One day, I had to tell her that I have to go, to get back to my work in another city. I wanted to prepare her for the news that she'll be alone again once she'll go home.
I found her smiling, telling me that she realized I was not her daughter one week before, but she loved to see me and pretend I am that daughter because I was in fact, someone's daughter. She said she needed someone to be there for her, to make her feel not so alone and gain courage to face her life.
This topic made me think about this and how important can sometimes be to hold a hand, to say a nice word, to be there for someone in need…
Hi Hibiscus and Claudia,
I would like to narrate a similar incident in my life..
I was doing my MBA project in a multi speciality hospital in Chennai. I had to go to all wards in the hospital to collect questionnaires from nurses as a part of my survey...
One day at 8 pm I went to collect data from a nurse boy in ICCU(Intensive Coronary Care Unit). I apologized with him for disturbing him...He replied he was attending to a critical patient and asked me to wait for sometime. As I was waiting there near his bed amidst moans and cries of that patient I recalled how my father had just recovered after a by-pass surgery in the same hospital.
My thought was interrupted by a voice " Doctor,How is my husband ?" I was startled to be addressed as "Doctor" My lips opened to explain her that I was not a doctor..But tears in her eyes told me a different story.. I took her hands and told her " Dont worry,You husband will be alright " Before I could complete she again told with tears rolling down her cheeks " Please save him "
I assured her with a confident tone " Dont worry.. come and see tomorrow morning your husband will be alive I repeat your husband will be alive" She walked away little relieved..I was left pondering who this patient and this lady were to me ?? Nobody...But all she needed was "Someone to just be there"
Nurse boy asked me "Do you know them" I said "no,I just said what I would have said to my mother if my father was in that bed "
Now when I write this post I am satisfied somewhere that unknown woman would be happy for those words that came just at the right moment when she needed them most...
My dear friends,In our life there are moments in which all we need is not medicines,technology,doctors but the words which tell us "Everything is alright" when nothing is alright..
The posts by Hibiscus and Claudia are standing examples of "Empathy" which is inherent in Claudia as a doctor.. Empathy is the one which is most needed by any employee in any field..A salesman has to empathize with his customer to know his needs..Nurse has to empathize when treating her patient..A mother has to empathize with her child..Son has to empathize with his elderly parents(which he often misses out to do)...We as team members have to empathize with fellow member to achieve common goals...
All employees are equipped with core skills needed in their jobs..But that "extra" is often missing..Nowadays lot of companies train their employees in soft skills but how many times employees put these soft skills to practice is a billion dollar question..!
Many thanks to Hibiscus and Claudia for this post which helped me recall those moments life in which " I was just there for someone when they needed me"
Sudarshan
I would like to narrate a similar incident in my life..
I was doing my MBA project in a multi speciality hospital in Chennai. I had to go to all wards in the hospital to collect questionnaires from nurses as a part of my survey...
One day at 8 pm I went to collect data from a nurse boy in ICCU(Intensive Coronary Care Unit). I apologized with him for disturbing him...He replied he was attending to a critical patient and asked me to wait for sometime. As I was waiting there near his bed amidst moans and cries of that patient I recalled how my father had just recovered after a by-pass surgery in the same hospital.
My thought was interrupted by a voice " Doctor,How is my husband ?" I was startled to be addressed as "Doctor" My lips opened to explain her that I was not a doctor..But tears in her eyes told me a different story.. I took her hands and told her " Dont worry,You husband will be alright " Before I could complete she again told with tears rolling down her cheeks " Please save him "
I assured her with a confident tone " Dont worry.. come and see tomorrow morning your husband will be alive I repeat your husband will be alive" She walked away little relieved..I was left pondering who this patient and this lady were to me ?? Nobody...But all she needed was "Someone to just be there"
Nurse boy asked me "Do you know them" I said "no,I just said what I would have said to my mother if my father was in that bed "
Now when I write this post I am satisfied somewhere that unknown woman would be happy for those words that came just at the right moment when she needed them most...
My dear friends,In our life there are moments in which all we need is not medicines,technology,doctors but the words which tell us "Everything is alright" when nothing is alright..
The posts by Hibiscus and Claudia are standing examples of "Empathy" which is inherent in Claudia as a doctor.. Empathy is the one which is most needed by any employee in any field..A salesman has to empathize with his customer to know his needs..Nurse has to empathize when treating her patient..A mother has to empathize with her child..Son has to empathize with his elderly parents(which he often misses out to do)...We as team members have to empathize with fellow member to achieve common goals...
All employees are equipped with core skills needed in their jobs..But that "extra" is often missing..Nowadays lot of companies train their employees in soft skills but how many times employees put these soft skills to practice is a billion dollar question..!
Many thanks to Hibiscus and Claudia for this post which helped me recall those moments life in which " I was just there for someone when they needed me"
Sudarshan
Hi Hibiscus and Claudia,
I would like to narrate a similar incident in my life..
See Sudarshan's complete reply
I would like to narrate a similar incident in my life..
See Sudarshan's complete reply
Thank you Sudarshan for sharing this moment with us.
You're right: empathy and care make us human, make the difference between turning away from someone in need, pretending we didn't hear or see and being there for that someone, be it a close person or a complete stranger.
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