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Many men and women have had to deal with this tricky but important decision in one's life. Be it at work or personal life we all face relationship challenges from time to time. The media continues to provide us with a variety of negative stories of how people got cheated of their possessions. Yes, when you learn of the story, we most often tend to sympathise with the weak or the one who got duped.
When our subconscious mind unknowingly gets exposed to such stories time and again, our inner mind cautions us to be careful with any one and everyone. And here
probably lies the mistake. We seem to take the 'one size fits all approach'. We begin our every interaction by being on guard with lots of self doubts about the
intentions of the other person. Every move and every action of the other person is seen from a very suspicious angle. To add to the confusion within one's mind, we have a host of internal enemies of the mind in terms of one's own ego, jealousy, desires, anger, greed, fears, insecurity
and inferiority to deal with. All these tend to wreck havoc within otherwise innocent mind creating further doubts. Now we may consult other near and dear friends and relatives for help little realising that they are likely to be biased either in your favour or against depending on the situation. Their opinions whether you like it or not is likely to further aggravate your ever growing doubts of the other person in question.
Since selfishness and self centeredness is the core of human nature, the same translates into everyday behaviour based on pre existing mindsets that are already heavily conditioned over the years. These glue-like mindsets coupled with die-hard habits form Concrete Wall-like Attitudes. That is the very start of Difficult Behaviours from otherwise well meaning people.
If you do not trust yourself, how do you expect others to trust you?
If you do not believe in yourself, how do you expect others to believe you?
If you do not love yourself, how do you expect others to love you?
If you do not respect yourself, how do you expect others to respect you?
If you wish to learn to deal with such behaviours, attitudes and mindsets in people with whom you come in contact be they your customers, family members, student participants, bosses, colleagues and the like then it is good idea to take a holistic approach to attitudinal training. This is essentially to enable your people skills to be better communicator, facilitator, coach, trainer, seller, public speaker, presenter, and persuader. Develop the Break Free Behaviour inspite of day to day challenges and any serious problems that you may face.
"Man is the architect of his own fate" so whether to grow up positively or to go down entirely depends on one's attitude. As rightly pointed out, the negativism which prevails everywhere kills all the positive attitude and make a person so negative that it kills all his/her dreams.
Please go through this post/presentation on how the negative thoughts act as a poison and kills all the dreams.
http://hrlink.in/topics/be-positivebeware-of-poison-that-kills-our-dreams
Cheers!
Pradeep
"Man is the architect of ... See Pradeep's complete reply
Hi Pradeep,
Thanks for sharing your input, well i go through the article which you have referred.
Thanks again for your feedback.
Regards
Nataraj