Hi Sashmita!

Someone said: “You cannot hate other people without hating your self”.

And I say: "Hating oneself is like hating God!"

Thanks for the posting.


Regards

Rana Vikram Singh

Hi Rana,

Absolutely correct, i do agree with your point. Thanks.

Its alws true, we cant hate a person for a long time. B'coz i feel at times we fade up carrying the burden of Hatred-ness and we do often require ppl around us to love us n pamper us.

Thanks & Regards
Sashmita

Interesting contradictory thoughts... I feel like responding to the generic viewpoints – keeping in mind that each individual may have experiences that are different than what I conceptualize and each person is entitled to live by those experiences rather than a generic behavioural and psychological concept.

Reading this page reminds me of the popular statement that most behavioural trainers rely on, “different things work with different people. Pick what works for you and use that.” Not always true. There are always principles and laws in this world that when practiced the way they are professed, will definitely help an individual succeed. Problem is, we do not always follow them as professed, but do so as we like... coz of which the outcome is not the same as it is supposed to be.

The same is true in the case of forgiving also. We so easily say “forgive and move on – that is the way to success” that we do not ask the one important question – “how? How does forgiving and letting go of hatred help clear up the path to success? How should I work on forgiving such that it will clear that path?” Even in today’s age of techniques and concepts such as NLP’s modelling and Meta Mind Management, we do not ask the vital ""why?"

Many people also say – “I am not like the Mahatma. I will not show my other cheek if one is slapped. In today’s world I will do what it takes for me to go forward and those who purposefully come in my way with negative intentions towards me are wrong and I do not need to forgive them.”

Very true, you do not need to... In the article, potatoes are taken as an analogy for hatred. Let us think about this for a minute: it is true that potatoes over a period of time do get rotten! However, it is but human to usually carry these potatoes (feelings) with us for some time. What is important is what do we do with these potatoes for the time that we carry them (while they are not yet affecting us)? Do we achieve what we have to and then get rid of them before they become a problem for us? Or do we just let them be and let them rot and keep holding onto them until they become unbearable (in life this can be stress and frustration caused by our feelings).

Meta Mind Management happens when we accept the negative feelings that arise in us (instead of trying to be saintly – of course, assuming we encounter these once in a while as humans), and know what to do with them such that they help us towards our goals, and then discard them aside before they start to harm us...

Hello Ashutosh,

I Do agree with you, but hating sumone at times gives dissatisfaction. Why we hate a person bcoz he/she has hurt us by his/her words or act... anythng it may be..

I have noticed many times juz for a small reason i feel.... how cud he/she can do like this to me, i hate him/her. And wid anger i say bad thngs to myself.... sumtimes i do cry, and start hating that person and feel bad thinking how cud my friend can do such silly things to me. But believe me aftr week or two i juz feel, yes am missing sumthing, how cud i hate a person like this, my personal experience say i cant give my 100% to anythng if sumthng at the back of my mind is disturbing me. And after a week or two i try to be normal and i juz forgive tht person thinking its lyf...

We have to move ahead and accept each day as it comes. And if am getting hurt bcoz of ppl, thats not thr problem, may be they are like this way only, but i have to change my attitude, by not expecting much out of them. Then only i can forgive them easily.

And trust the day i started implementing all these things rigorously, am very much happy wth my self, the thngs around. I feel satisfied with watevr i have. Yes, i do expect thngs for and i shud, but not from others, thats y watevr thy do juz forgive them, and remember one thing we hate ppl bcoz thy hurt us, and "No One can hurt U, unless U permit them to do!!".....

Regards
Sashmita

Hello RK,

I Do agree with your point, it varies from person to person and as Revathi said “Different things work with different people. Pick what works for you and use that.”…. So we need to pick the best for ourselves n keeping doing good :)

Thanks for sharing your views on the same.

Regards
Sashmita