Myths of NLP-2

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Share Posted by Psy.Visesh... 17-04-2009

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Myth 1 – NLP will give me total control over all aspects of my life
Myth 2 - With NLP, I won’t feel bad ever again
Myth 3 – I can use NLP to control & change other people
Myth 4 - NLP technique x didn’t work for me, so either I’m broken or NLP doesn’t work, or…
• You need to custom-fit the approach to your own neurology
• You can try different ways of getting the desired result
• You can identify how you already do this really well
• You can be delighted with the response you did get, & curious about how you can generate new ones.
Myth 5 - NLP is the best way to do everything
Myth 6 - NLP is therapy
Myth 7 - Understanding about NLP means I can do it

Myth 5 - NLP is the best way to do everything
I remember when I first learned NLP, I assumed it was the best way to do everything. This assumption closed my eyes (temporarily) to all sorts of great stuff people were doing who didn’t know NLP. NLP is essentially a technology for modelling what works. To this end, it’s been used to create models of top performers in fields including therapy, persuasion, presentation skills, leadership, sports etc. These models can then be learned by others. But let’s get one thing straight: there are people out there doing amazing stuff who haven’t even heard of NLP. That’s right, you heard right! There are people operating in every field who are getting great results without having learned NLP. This is great news for at least two reasons:
a) there are lots of amazing skills out there still to model, so once you’ve learned NLP you can get out there & find out how they’re doing what they’re doing.
b) people who are naturally brilliant in a field don’t typically know how they’re getting the results they’re getting (they have a story about it, but they usually don’t know what they’re doing at an unconscious level, because…it’s unconscious!) With NLP you can find out & then feed it back to them in ways that help them to enhance their abilities. Hooray!

Myth 6 - NLP is therapy
No it isn’t. OK, I guess a slightly more in-depth response would be appropriate. The first models created in NLP were of brilliant individuals getting great results working in the field of therapy. These great therapists happened to be amazing communicators, able to get rapport with people at a deep level & then ‘persuade’ them (one way or another) to change. It just so happens that many of the behaviours, skills & beliefs modelled from these individuals happen to be extremely useful in many other areas of human endeavour, especially when they relate to communication, influence & change. But the various elements of NLP have also been modelled from many other areas of expertise, including leadership, sports, persuasion, public speaking, etc. The list goes on. At its heart (to paraphrase Richard Bandler) NLP is a) the attitude that anything’s possible & b) the approaches used to model excellence.
The term ‘NLP’ is also used to describe the skills, techniques & attitudes that have been modelled. Having said all this, NLP can be (& is) used for great therapeutic benefits. For example, newly-trained NLP practitioners regularly help people overcome phobias or habits in a single session, by showing them how to run their brain differently. Does this mean the practitioner is a therapist? No. Does it mean they can do really cool stuff? Yes! People get therapeutic benefit from going on holiday. But does that make the travel agent a therapist? NLP isn’t therapy.

Myth 7 - Understanding about NLP means I can do it
I remember when I was first learning this stuff, sitting on a train reading a book about NLP, & being irritated by the noise the people across from me were making. The irony of this suddenly struck me: here I was with my nose in a book about human beings, communication & subjective experience, annoyed at the intrusion of some real human experience into my safe little book-world.
I’ve touched on this before. Books, tapes & videos are great as study aids, but NLP is about experience: you cannot truly understand any element of NLP until you can do it. Period. Werner Erhard once said “Understanding is the booby prize.” I’ve expanded this to “Understanding is the booby prize – experience is the Grand Prize.” I’m not saying you have to come on NLP training to learn to do this stuff, but I am saying you need to get out there & put it into action before you will really appreciate how powerful NLP is. Every single day you are presented with countless opportunities to put what you learn into practice. Grab hold of those opportunities, take some risks, have some fun. There are lots of people who can talk about NLP, far fewer who can do it: make up your mind to be one of those who can.

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Sudarshan 17-04-2009

Hello Sir,
Lot of Myths cleared.Great deal of information...I am very much interested in NLP could u please guide me....
Sudarshan
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