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Andrina
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Posted 24-10-2008Reply

Hi frends,

Am actaully sounding a bit out of the box now.bt thought u guys can help me.when any stranger comes to tlk to me i get along very easily.he becomes really close to me.but after a point of time they just vanish away without even informing me about wht went wrong tht made them to tk such decision abt me.n nw am scared to trust people for this matter.

kindly help me.

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  Rated 0 | Posted 24-10-2008

Getting along fine with someone as long as he is a stranger and the moment he is promoted to the next level they vanish without trace?

Sounds strange to me Andrina. But not to worry. I guess some of our friends here would have went thru the same phase. Very often we hear/see people who complain that the same ppl whom they trusted most had let them down. There are 2 types of ppl in this world. Ppl who deserve ur trust and ppl who dont. Maybe u have been trusting wrong ppl. Its quiet difficult to identify whom to be trusted and whom not. Sometimes the decision that we take after spending considerable time dont work out whereas the decisions taken out of haste clicks. We sit n start wondering whether do we need to follow the same in everything, (Ibviously we cant). And we cant always chose to hold everyone at arms distance coz that mite hurt those who come to us with open heart.

Guess i have done bit of confusion.!!That was not my aim.

The only practical advise for this I feel is Andrnia - "Move on"... Thats life.

There is an old quote which says "If everything is coming your way, probably you are on the wrong lane". Dont introspect too much and feel guilty.. Just see if there should be a change in the way you move with the stranger. If u feel that whatever u have been doing is right just move on.

So take all these happenings as a learning and start looking at the life positively. Iwont say dont trust anyone. But dont let them to break ur trust. :-)

Sorry for the longgg reply. I guess this reply will trigger some of our friends to post their replies.

Dont worrry friend.

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  Rated 0 | Posted 24-10-2008

Hi Andrina,

i have gone thru wat u have faced, as raghav replied he is right, its just a part of life. You shud move on in life........try to take it positively, think that they dont deserve ur friendship.

Regards,
Supriya

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  Rated 0 | Posted 24-10-2008

Hi Adrina,

It's good to see you sharing your problem to us. Like you, i have also gone through the same pain and agony that you are going through now. Just remember one thing nothing is permanent in life and happiness and worries plays their part in our life. So try to forget what has happened and start to live a new life. Concentrate on work and other things which interests you rather than thinking about the pain. Hope this will be useful to you.

Regards,

Rajesh

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  Rated 0 | Posted 24-10-2008

Hello Andrina,

I agree with all the others who feel that its easier to walk out of a relationship or to just take it chill, but I do feel strongly that to walk out is the easy way out.

I agree this can be a very unnerving thing when it comes to people we trust. It used to be a common thing with me too when I was in my teens. Luckily I had a mentor whom I spoke to. He told me something which I felt offended at first. He told me to do an introspection. As per him, if more than 3 people breach your trust, or more than 3 people dump you, maybe the problem is with you and not with them. I did an introspection and realized that I was very short tempered. I took my mentor's help in taming it and in due course of time, I didnt have the problem of people leaving me or breaking my trust.

To sustain a relationship for life takes iron will and with it, comes the conviction to do an unbiased self-introspection which might throw up interesting results.


It may or may not be true in your case, but it would definitely help to do an introspection. If the problem is really with others, my suggestion would be to put them on your ignore list. :)

Hope nobody does it again with you. Cheers !!!

Pradeep
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  Rated 0 | Posted 24-10-2008

Hi Andrina,

It looks quite strange for me. Its not because people are leaving you. But it is about you are worried about that.

From your query, I felt that you are a bit sensitive.

You know that, no relation is never ending. The same way with a stranger too.

There may be a 100 ppl u meet, 20 u get close to and finally ur left with 2. those 2 are ur real fds.

You may need to feel bad when those 2 leaves u, not the rest of 98.

Don't be tooo sensitive, take things easily and go ahead with beautiful colors of life.

Naga Bharadwaj
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  Rated 0 | Posted 24-10-2008

Hi Andrina, I agree with all the suggestions given by our friends.

What will happen if we analyse this situation in other angle ( i m not sure this is the right way).

Every one is talking about the strangers who were a good friends to u for a couple of time and vanishing suddenly.

What is the reason? If he is a one person who had done like this we can say this is the problem with him but u r facing this continuously. Did u analyse ur self any time why this is happening and is there any mistake that u r doing.

Don't take this in a negative way, this is the thought i got; hope u can understand better.

Andrina
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  Rated 0 | Posted 24-10-2008

Getting along fine with someone as long as he is a stranger and the moment he is promoted to the nex... See Raghav's complete reply


Thanks so much Raghav.i really appreciate the way u look at things .Coz even i look the same way.bt now was tired wid all these things.So thot of askin help.Thanks again.

Andrina
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  Rated 0 | Posted 24-10-2008

Hi Andrina,



i have gone thru wat u have faced, as raghav replied he is right, its ju... See Supriya's complete reply


thanks Supriya.

Andrina
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  Rated 0 | Posted 24-10-2008

Hi Adrina,



It's good to see you sharing your problem to us. Like you, i have als... See Rajesh's complete reply


thanks a lot Rajesh

Andrina
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  Rated 0 | Posted 24-10-2008

Hello Andrina,



I agree with all the others who feel that its easier to walk out of a... See Harish's complete reply


Thanks Harish.Definitly wud tk ur suggestion.



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