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Things are not Always Black or White
Arun
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Posted 07-08-2009Reply

In life, a lesson learned in your past that you will never forget completely.



When I was in elementary school, I got into a major argument with a boy in my class. I have forgotten what the argument was about, but I have never forgotten the lesson learned that day.



I was convinced that I was right and he was wrong - and he was just as convinced that I was wrong and he was right. The teacher decided to teach us a very important lesson. She brought us up to the front of the class and placed him on one side of her desk and me on the other.



In the middle of her desk was a large, round object. I could clearly see that it was black. She asked the boy what color the object was. White, he answered.



I couldn't believe he said the object was white, when it was obviously black! Another argument started between my classmate and me, this time about the color of the object.



The teacher told me to go stand where the boy was standing and told him to come stand where I had been. We changed places, and now she asked me what the color of the object was. I had to answer, White. It was an object with two differently colored sides, and from his viewpoint it was white. Only from my side was it black.



My teacher taught me a very important lesson learned that day You must stand in the other person's shoes and look at the situation through their eyes in order to truly understand their perspective.



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Arun

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  Rated 0 | Posted 07-08-2009

very true arun... we need to place ourselves in someone else's shoes and analyze the situation. it would be easier to avoid arguments or conflicts.

Arun
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  Rated 0 | Posted 07-08-2009

very true arun... we need to place ourselves in someone else's shoes and analyze the situation.... See Arpana's complete reply


Thanks a Ton !!! Arpana,

For taking time & responding back.

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  Rated +2 | Posted 07-08-2009

Hi Arun,.. i agree that we do need to stand in the other person's shoes and analyze the situation... but in a gvn situation our emotions takes over our mind, hearts and feelings and it jus becomes natural to be hurt or angered....

wish we could really gv in to this way of other person's perspective of thinking.. life wud indeed be beautiful :)

Thanks for sharing this meaningful and thought provoking messgae....

Arun
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  Rated +1 | Posted 08-08-2009

Hi Arun,.. i agree that we do need to stand in the other person's shoes and analyze the situati... See Priya's complete reply


Hi Priya,

Agree with you, We need to analyze but the situations are such that at that

Point we don't think about all these,

Thanks a lot for your response.

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  Rated +2 | Posted 10-08-2009

Hi Arun,

Really true , it all depends on the perception of the people and the situation. The thing which is right from our point of view may not be right from the others perspective.

thanx for posting......

Arun
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  Rated 0 | Posted 10-08-2009

Hi Arun,



Really true , it all depends on the perception of the people and the situati... See Psumitha's complete reply


Thanks !!! Psumitha,

For your response.

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  Rated +1 | Posted 10-08-2009

That is truly a very invaluable message Arun.This is also a basic principle of natural justice where we have to view everything from the perspective of other person otherwise all decisions will be lopsided with lot of bias.
Thank you so much for sharing such a wonderful post.
Cheers!
Pradeep

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  Rated 0 | Posted 10-08-2009

Trust me, things are almost never black or white.
We cannot judge life and simplify it in two colours: we'll offend all the shades that human eye can or can't perceive, all "the hues" our mind can find in a perspective, in an opinion, a situation.

There are thousands of colours, thousands of "greys" in nature, around us and this is reflecting in the way we see our truth, the way we think.
There is so much complexity...we just need to stop for a second when trying to convince someone and think that we might just miss a hue, one that can change the entire spectrum, that can offer a completely different perspective over an issue. We aren't the keyholders of the absolute truth, no matter how much we'd like to be.

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